HOW TO HANDLE PLAYING TIME DISPUTES
Playing time is one of the most volatile issues in recreational
sports today. And though parents may genuinely believe their child
deserves more exposure on the field or court, they do far more harm
than good by confronting coaches publicly and demanding playing
time. Here are some ideas to forestall and resolve these disputes:

For parents:
1. Heed your child's sense of the matter. Kids generally know who
deserves the most playing time. If they aren't aggrieved, you
probably shouldn't be either.
2. If your child is upset, suggest that she or he speak directly to
the coach. It will help your child develop courage and confidence.
You can help him or her rehearse the talk.
3. If this conversation doesn't help, speak to the coach yourself.
But be calm and reasonable, and remember that the coach has final say
on this matter.
4. Don't argue that the coach should play your child more. Instead,
ask how your child can improve and earn more playing time. Listen
carefully and follow up.
5. Realize that the coach must balance pressures to win against
pressures to play everyone, and that no one ever does so perfectly.
6. Understand that your children will not only remember your
behavior, but imitate it.